"The most unbearable pain for me is that the video got posted on the internet. People watched it over and over. It's like my son is being murdered again and again."
The grieving parents of murder victim Jun Lin sat down for an
interview yesterday with the CBC to discuss what their lives have been like since they learned their only son had been brutally killed while attending school in Canada.
Online reactions to the story seem largely critical of the interview, with many calling it "intrusive" and "gratuitous."
Personally, I have a hard time accepting this type of criticism. While most have heard the terms gratuitous sex, and gratuitous violence, I have never heard of grief being described in this way. To say that something is gratuitous implies lack of reason; pointlessness. What about a mother and father's utter devastation at the loss of their child is without reason, or pointless?
Other comments chide the CBC for hounding these poor folks, to which I can only respond: they accepted the interview. Is it really so inconceivable that perhaps Jun's parents wanted to share their feelings with the masses who sat at our computer screens and watched while their son was killed, dismembered, and defiled, so is it really all that difficult to believe that they wanted to speak to us about what that has done to their family?
As I watched Jun Lin's parents struggle to find the words to express their sorrow, my heart truly broke for them. Their tears are the other side of murder, violence, and depravity. I feel it is the least we can do, as global citizens, to listen to their story and to feel their pain -- even if only for a moment.
Silence will not save any lives; that can only be accomplished through understanding.